Follow your heart they say… Mine always leads me to the Barn!

With the move approaching things are getting busy around here. Sometimes I feel like I don’t have time to breathe. Let alone pack.

As a caregiver life can get downright hectic. When I was having chemo treatments Mike and I would often leave from Hays (90 miles east) to go to KU Med Center (350 miles east). It didn’t make sense to go back home so we would schedule appointments in Kansas City this way. As tired as I get now with frequent trips to the Kansas City area, I don’t know how I did it being under that inordinate amount of stress. During all that we were also trying to get to as many of John’s activities as possible. I was also working to complete my certification in Equine Gestalt Coaching®.

A Plainsmen Singers concert.

My schedule had to be managed. There wasn’t much flexibility allowed.

When I need to be flexible with my schedule it can take a moment for me to explore the possibilities. Can I really move my schedule around to accommodate someone else or should I say no? When you’re in the midst of medical appointments you need to have your priorities in line. Mine were Mike’s and my health, John’s activities, my studies, then anything else. I was amazing at keeping those priorities in line.

John golfing.

During John’s senior year, I mostly devoted my time to his activities. I think I went to the Touched By A Horse® Summit and I think that was the only trip I allowed myself. That one was also planned so I could attend his cross-country meet and missed the first day. I was happy to do this for him. He was my priority at that point.

When I took him off to college life seemed strange. My last child had left home, I had lost my husband and I was alone. This transition took some exploration. As is the case with many women I had gone from my parents’ house to college and then to Mike’s house. I had never really been alone.

Just as I was getting used to this and was ready to start my new career as an Equine Gestaltist™ there was a pandemic that changed all our lives. In June of 2020, my dad died from colon cancer and again I was lost. Where do I go without my rock who had supported me in everything I do?

As I move to eastern Kansas, I’m ready to begin this amazing new adventure in my life. There is some sadness as Mike would have loved being as close to a lake as I will be. And even though he’s not here in person my dad has helped with this transition.

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