Kind Sight: A Different Way to Look Back

What if you could look at your past self with the same compassion you offer someone you love? Along the lines of perfectionism, I’ve been thinking about the idea of kind sight. I heard someone use that term on a podcast several weeks ago, and it stayed with me. Her...

When Good Enough Lets the Light In

What happens when we stop waiting for everything to be perfect? I had a decision to make. It was late Tuesday night, and I still hadn’t finished writing this blog post. Monday had been a long day—an appointment in Kansas City, lunch with my mom, taking John to get...

When Life Changes in an Instant

Learning to navigate the unexpected—and finding connection through the transitions we never planned. We Think We Know What Comes Next Things can change in an instant. I know this has happened to me more than once. Sometimes, life changes with a phone call, a...

Does Time Control You?

We can’t control time, yet we can choose what we make room for. Time Has a Way of Taking Over Time. Sometimes it seems to consume our lives. For some people, time is neatly divided into eight-hour workdays, five-day workweeks, weekends, holidays, and vacations. You...

What If You Didn’t Need a Crystal Ball?

Sometimes the future becomes clearer when we stop trying to predict it and start getting curious about the next step. An Opportunity or an Obligation? Sometimes opportunities can feel like obligations. Maybe the invitation is to look at them differently. Instead of...

Flexibility, Boundaries, and the Space Between

Finding the space between caring for others and caring for yourself. I drove to the Kansas City area four days out of five last week. And on the fifth day, I went twice. Monday was The Moth. Wednesday was lunch with Mom and a job interview for my son. Thursday was a...

What Do Your Socks and Shoes Say About You?

The habits we barely notice may be shaping the identity we live from—and the results we create. A couple of years ago, I was in a group that met with businesses in Wichita. I think it was in our last session that we were asked how we put on our socks and shoes. Sock,...

The Magic of Observation

What if curiosity—not judgment—is the key to seeing ourselves and others more clearly? When we make observations with curiosity instead of judgment, magic can happen. That thought has been staying with me. The other evening, I was watching 60 Minutes, and there was a...

Rediscovering Yourself

When the Life You Knew Changes There’s a moment many caregivers know yet rarely talk about—the moment when the crises quiet, the responsibilities shift, and your life suddenly becomes your own again. And instead of feeling free… you feel lost. Caregiving shapes you in...