Does Time Control You?

We can’t control time, yet we can choose what we make room for. Time Has a Way of Taking Over Time. Sometimes it seems to consume our lives. For some people, time is neatly divided into eight-hour workdays, five-day workweeks, weekends, holidays, and vacations. You...

What If You Didn’t Need a Crystal Ball?

Sometimes the future becomes clearer when we stop trying to predict it and start getting curious about the next step. An Opportunity or an Obligation? Sometimes opportunities can feel like obligations. Maybe the invitation is to look at them differently. Instead of...

Flexibility, Boundaries, and the Space Between

Finding the space between caring for others and caring for yourself. I drove to the Kansas City area four days out of five last week. And on the fifth day, I went twice. Monday was The Moth. Wednesday was lunch with Mom and a job interview for my son. Thursday was a...

What Do Your Socks and Shoes Say About You?

The habits we barely notice may be shaping the identity we live from—and the results we create. A couple of years ago, I was in a group that met with businesses in Wichita. I think it was in our last session that we were asked how we put on our socks and shoes. Sock,...

The Magic of Observation

What if curiosity—not judgment—is the key to seeing ourselves and others more clearly? When we make observations with curiosity instead of judgment, magic can happen. That thought has been staying with me. The other evening, I was watching 60 Minutes, and there was a...

Rediscovering Yourself

When the Life You Knew Changes There’s a moment many caregivers know yet rarely talk about—the moment when the crises quiet, the responsibilities shift, and your life suddenly becomes your own again. And instead of feeling free… you feel lost. Caregiving shapes you in...

The Stories That Keep Us Small

Who Are You Becoming When You Let Go of Victim Thinking? Strong Isn’t the Only Option I’ve been thinking a lot about being a victim lately. Several years ago, shortly after Mike was diagnosed with a rare autoimmune disease, my therapist told me he thought I was the...

The Expectations Between Us

Sometimes the stories we create are very different from the stories someone else is living. A bond like marriage often comes with expectations. I know mine certainly did. Looking back, I can see there were many expectations I never spoke out loud because I assumed...

When the Light Changes Everything

Sometimes the answers we’ve been waiting for don’t whisper—they illuminate the path ahead. The day I’m writing this would have been Mike’s 67th birthday. Between May 29 and July 6, there are several milestones that make this a heavy season for...