Actually, Susan, everyone is reasonable.
They just have their own reasons.
And usually it’s worth trying to learn what they are to maximize chances of a full-blown, 60’s style, psychedelic lovefest. Which is always a good thing.
Groovy you,
The UniverseMy reasons today are fun, laughter, and the 5th dimension, Susan. Y tu?
~TUT – A Note from the Universe
As a doctor or a patient why should this be important to you?
When your a patient or a caregiver it can feel like there is an alligator following you. Just waiting for its chance.
Doctors may see patients and caregivers at their worst. The only thing we can focus on is the health of the patient and what can be done for them. Doctors need to understand that right now nothing else matters to us.
Patients and caregivers need to keep this in mind because the doctor is human and may have just given someone some serious test results. They may have spent more time with the last patient because they had a lot of questions and now, they are running behind. Or they may have a seriously ill family member that’s weighing on their mind.
There’s a meme on FaceBook stating that in a world where you can be anything – be kind. You never know what someone else is facing so why not just be kind.
Early in Mike’s illness I had a doctor get pretty forceful about putting me on two new medications and telling me that I needed to work harder to get him to the Mayo Clinic.
Sometimes it feels like our lives are spinning out of control.
This was not his doctor and said she had seen him on the street and his health was deteriorating. Who was she to tell me how to handle this? When I left the office, they didn’t set up return appointment like normal. I never went back because a few months later Mike was fired as a patient from that clinic.
This was the clinic where my dad had worked, they had purchased the business from him. Moving to another clinic and finding another doctor was not something I wanted to do.
Looking back had I known what I know now about being a caregiver I would have understood her telling me that I needed to work on this and not expect the system to do it for him.
My point is that I was already upset about the situation. The doctors couldn’t tell us what was going on and I wasn’t in a head space to receive what she was telling me the way she was saying it. It left me feeling unsettled and almost in tears.
When doctors are talking to patients it would be helpful if they have an idea about how they will receive the message. Will telling them they have a limited time to live give them the fight to carry on or will they give up.
I understand they may need to give them a prognosis, but it would be helpful to be able to word it in a way it is best received. You also need to keep in mind that this may be the hardest thing the patient/caregiver has ever heard. Show some compassion.
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