Don’t cry because they’re gone. Smile because they were here.
As I sit here with the dog I wonder about the timing of life. Timing can be magical and divine. Or not.
There are times when the world seems to be throwing everything at me at once. The catastrophes keep coming one after another. Then it calms down for a moment.
I had a riding instructor who said feel those moments when everything is right and they will turn into minutes and eventually the good moments will be normal.
When I lost Mike, everyone said I would need to find a “new normal”. So, what is that?
Normal without your life partner whether by death or divorce can be traumatic.
It’s been over three and a half years and still, I have moments of deep grief. I expect them to be a part of my life from now on. My “new normal”.
I don’t have my person to talk to. It doesn’t happen as frequently that I have an urge to talk with Mike, but it happens.
A week ago, I was sitting at my desk doing something and a wave of grief washed over me. These have never lasted very long and are bottomless. Add to that the concerns I have for my family and losing my medical advisor and it hit hard. I sat with those feelings, let them move through me, and move on.
Gestalt has helped me with my grief. It has given me a chance to express it. A chance to release it instead of holding it in. The horses have been right there with me for this whether my own horses or some of Melisa’s herd. Horses are there to support me.
So, when you are in grief and it feels like life is throwing you curve balls sit with it. Feel it and listen. You might be surprised by what it is telling you.
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Onward!
