As I watch the horses through the misty morning light I wonder if they are preparing for what’s next. Of course, they’re not. They live in the moment and don’t think about what is to come.
This is their mastery. When it comes to being in the moment, they are superior. One might think it’s a random pattern but it’s what they were meant to do. To be in the moment with whatever life gives them. You see if they are not aware of what’s around them, they may become a predator’s dinner. I am in wonder as I watch them gallop off through the mist ever mindful of the world around them.
As we go through life worrying about the future or stuck in the past with regret we forget to live. As I have navigated grief for over two years and again since my dad passed in June, I have come to realize that grief is ever-present. It may not always be in the forefront of my life, but it is always there.
When my grief is triggered, I stick with the sadness for however long it takes. Usually, it is a few minutes at the most. A fond remembrance or song that starts my thinking about my loved one. Sometimes I get tears in my eyes or have an all-out cry. Other times I smile.
I believe, like the horses, when I’m in the moment with my grief it passes quickly and I can move on to the next stage.
The horses have mastered true being. They live in the moment with whatever life brings them.
A life lived in the moment is a life filled with peace and joy.
Roulette gives me a head toss. One of the Gypsy Vanner’s at Little Bit North Ranch in Colorado where a lot of the EGCM training takes place.
You may be wondering how Gestalt can help you in your grief. Whether your loss was last week, last year, or 30 years ago, Gestalt offers you a process that will guide you through releasing and reframing your emotions — your regrets, your joy, your pain, and your love. It will create the space for you to have that conversation you missed, to say what remained unsaid, to square a debt, make an apology, receive an apology, or just share what is on your heart in a way that honors your loved one.
Gestalt allows me to feel without getting stuck in the feeling of emptiness.
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